How we are coping with a new school set up…
Despite the title of my blog referring to my motherhood, I have become more cautious about sharing about my son’s life. He is having a tricky time but the last thing I want to do is make the future tough for him by sharing too much. So to put it simply, he is currently not in school and at home with me. I never intended to become a homeschooling parent but this is the tale of my accidental homeschool and what I would have done differently.
As 2022 drew to an end, I reflected on the confusion of the last couple of school terms
At first I thought we would get to the bottom of the upset and get my son back to school at least part time…it didn’t happen.
Then I thought I should finish work set by school – fighting through my fatigue to meet their requirements and motivate him. Not a chance!
Then I thought I would get a load of books for him to work through at his own pace and then I signed up for online classes… This was the most ridiculous thought of all. Had I forgotten how little he did all that time in lockdown?
None of this worked. If it still looks like school, it is too much. Now he does low demand activities with a tutor once a day and I try my best the rest of the time. The hope is we will not stay in this limbo, waiting for a specialist school placement, for too long. But while wait I have done what I can to look after myself.
How I have coped
Evening walks so I always get outside alone
Taking him to the park and stopping myself feeling guilty as school isn’t the right space for him right now
Ear phones in and lots of brilliant podcasts and audiobooks
Building up my reading muscle again so I can read more physical books in short chunks each day
Quiet time in the afternoon while he plays in his room
Asking the local authority for a tutor so he is not missing out as much
Acknowledging that I do not want to be his teacher but I can help him
And finally, though it means doing less creative work, volunteering my time to help other parents. This has helped me make connection with the adult world a little.
By sharing this part of my journey, I am hoping to explain why I have been less dedicated to my blog. But also take the time to explain that we do what life calls us to do. Life is what happens when we are busy making other plans I have explained before.
I hope that as I reflect on my accidental “homeschool” I can start to add more in again that also makes my life more creative, fun and interesting. And for both of us I hope we find the place where he can be his happy self.